
It’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. ~Author Unknown
Once upon a time there were three little pigs. Each was happy in his own little house until that wind-bag wolf came bopping along. (It’s always the BigBad who cause all the problems, isn’t it?) Just when our porcine protagonists are settling in with a bowl of popcorn and the remote control… BADA-BOOM! Kindling.
When we’re children, we’re told that we haven’t yet begun to live. When we reach adulthood, we’re told we have our entire lives ahead of us. There’s no thought of starting over… we’re just starting.
Soon we’re filling our lives with people, places, and things that matter to us. Education, career, home, family, friends, pastimes, vacations, money, …we’re building Life.
If you build it… along comes the BigBad-Bada-Boom. Life is no longer a building. It’s a roller-coaster.
I hate starting over. There’s something doomy-gloomy about sweeping up the shattered pieces of your efforts… your pride… your hopes & dreams… and discarding them like last night’s pizza boxes. Admitting that “it ain’t happenin’”… wishing it wasn’t happening. The world seems upside-down.
And everyone you know has “wisdom” for you…
cheer up! it could be worse…
you must not have worked hard enough…
what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger…
these things happen…
They mean well. Well-meaning folks know what it feels like. Well-meaning folks think they’re giving you roses in these sentiments, but forget how thorny they are to receive. Until they get a well-meant bunch from you.
I love starting over. Clean slate. Fresh perspective. New life. It clears away the cobwebs of habit and routine and …normality (ewww!). Boredom. Endless sameness. There’s something gloomy-doomy about doing things the same way day after day after day…
Sometimes, a little death is just what the doctor ordered…so to speak.
Starting over is like life after death. Not the big “D” death that signals the end of this stage of your journey…but perhaps the death of a dream. The end of a road you’re traveling. The resounding voice telling you “None Shall Pass.”
Starting over means opportunity. It means beginning a new cycle, a new stage, a new way of being in the world. Starting over is facing the inevitable changes that come to you and affecting that change with your own intentions. That’s a mighty powerful place to be. You’re leading the parade.
Every living thing starts over. Birth-Life-Death, Spring-Summer-Autumn-Winter, Sunrise-Noontide-Sunset-Midnight… each day, each moment, is a segment of the cycles of the universe, spinning out the web of Reality. In the words of Semisonic:
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.
Grieve the loss of ‘What Was’…for a little while.
Starting over is a chance to celebrate What May Be… What Will Be…
…until next time.
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