No One Cares That You’re the Victim…


“Baseless victimhood is usually the last stage before outright aggression.”  ~~Stefan Molyneux


Stop being a victim
Stop with the Victim Mentality





It’s not FAIR!

We reject

your sense of


You’re stuck in

The Past

Forget it

Shut the Fuck Up

For Crying Out Loud

Fix Yourself Up


Someone Hurt You

So What?

It’s Yours to deal with now.

Get Over It.

In this World

You’re either a Winner

or a Whiner.

No one cares that you’re the Victim.

No one talks about

Perpetrator Mentality

aka: Get Them Before They Get You

or that it comes from

Righteous Indignation


Justified retaliation~

If I don’t cry,

I’ll kill.

Crazy Annie, Queen of Reality


let freedom ring…




                                          Newly-hatched ladybug pupae on a sage leaf. Oakland CA

Yellow-white shout in a cornflower sea

Billows of fluff float by, patiently

Green dancing leaves shiver & sway with the breeze

Jaunty flowers yield their treasures to diligent bees.

Who’s Driving This Thing!?


~~The Inner Critic~~

~~The Inner Critic~~

In judging others, folks will work overtime for no pay.
– Charles Edwin Carruthers
Everyone’s a critic. Everyone has something to say about just about everything I think, say, or do. That’s okay, though, I’ve heard the Voice of the Critic for so long, in so many ways, I don’t hear it anymore. It’s all crap.
Do you ever experience this?:
You’ve finally achieved some difficult goal you’ve set for yourself… say, you’ve quit smoking. You’re proud of the accomplishment. You pat yourself on the back for overcoming something so difficult. It’s awesome!  You feel so good, you share with everyone… you’ve got ideas that work, if anyone wants them!
Then, Suddenly…
People don’t seem to have much time for you. They seem sort of uncomfortable…
Jealous!      critics…
Those nasty, downer, killjoy voices and their assumptions, put-downs, complaints, rejection. The ones who let the air out of your joy-balloon… with just an off-hand remark. AGAIN. Why do you tolerate them? What should you do about them? What’s their problem, anyway?

CRAP. That’s what.

They’re full of it!

So full of it, in fact, that it spills out into everything they say. Which, naturally, makes them difficult to be around. I mean, REALLY…

some people… i swear… :'(

Let’s just lay it out there… they’re full of C. R. A. P.: Complaints. Rejections. Assumptions. Put-downs.

It’s true. Plain. Simple. Fact.

It sucks to be them. To have those thoughts living in there. Rattling around. Rotting. Festering.

how can they not see their own ugliness? :'(

What is it that YOU do when you’re feeling unhappy, uncomfortable, or worse– uncertain?

Oh? I see…

I guess we’ve all got a little CRAP of our own:

Complaints~ there are things we just don’t like/trust/believe…

Rejections~ We refuse. That is all.

Assumptions~ We know that we know what we know, you know?

Put-downs~ Don’t be stupid/obnoxious/ignorant, I’m right

How did WE get so full of CRAP!?      …aaackk!!…

Here’s how~ over a lifetime, you’ve taken CRAP.

From others and from yourself.   …don’t forget me!!!…

Well, you can’t change others.      we’ve tried…


You can do something about what you think, say, and do.

Human relationships are excursions in diplomacy, and as in international affairs, your personal affairs require negotiation & agreements. It’s CRAP that gets in the way.

CRAP originates with your very own Inner Critic, doing what it does: playing on your Weaknesses, Imperfections, Flaws, Fears, Losses, Excuses… playing WIFFLE ball with your head, spilling all that nastiness into your life.

“But Wait!” you say?

You are a good/kind/nice person? A People-Pleaser, perhaps?     …good dog…

I have no doubts that you are. So am I.

Until I am not. You, too… you know?

In order to deal with the ceaseless Voice of the Critic, we do whatever we can to drown it out, numb the sting, ignore it… make it STOP.

But it is disobedient.    …Bad Dog! >:}  A lot like a People-Pleaser.    why can’t you just do what I want for once!?!…

Your Inner Critic…a People-Pleaser? Of course. It was installed to keep you alert to all the ways in which you can increase your enjoyable experience of this brief sojourn with Mother Gaia. It can’t help that you ignore the more subtle urgings of your Soul…     …why can’t you listen the first time?…

All the voices it uses, all the things it says, are the voices you’ve heard and listened to in the past.    …if it works, keep doing it!…

The trouble doubles when guidance meant for you spills out of you and onto others.

We tolerate the Critic because we’re all so familiar with its voice. We often use its voice. Some of us grew up believing that voice is the voice of God. (spoiler alert: it’s NOT.) Most of us go about our day with the Critic on auto-repeat and we don’t know how to shut it off.

Be Kind.To yourself and to others. Every person you meet is a lot more like you than you think…