In judging others, folks will work overtime for no pay.– Charles Edwin Carruthers
CRAP. That’s what.
They’re full of it!
So full of it, in fact, that it spills out into everything they say. Which, naturally, makes them difficult to be around. I mean, REALLY…
…some people… i swear… :'(
Let’s just lay it out there… they’re full of C. R. A. P.: Complaints. Rejections. Assumptions. Put-downs.
It’s true. Plain. Simple. Fact.
It sucks to be them. To have those thoughts living in there. Rattling around. Rotting. Festering.
…how can they not see their own ugliness? :'(
What is it that YOU do when you’re feeling unhappy, uncomfortable, or worse– uncertain?
Oh? I see…
I guess we’ve all got a little CRAP of our own:
Complaints~ there are things we just don’t like/trust/believe…
Rejections~ We refuse. That is all.
Assumptions~ We know that we know what we know, you know?
Put-downs~ Don’t be stupid/obnoxious/ignorant, I’m right
How did WE get so full of CRAP!?
Here’s how~ over a lifetime, you’ve taken CRAP.
From others and from yourself.
…don’t forget me!!!…
Well, you can’t change others.
You can do something about what you think, say, and do.
Human relationships are excursions in diplomacy, and as in international affairs, your personal affairs require negotiation & agreements. It’s CRAP that gets in the way.
CRAP originates with your very own Inner Critic, doing what it does: playing on your Weaknesses, Imperfections, Flaws, Fears, Losses, Excuses… playing WIFFLE ball with your head, spilling all that nastiness into your life.
“But Wait!” you say?
I have no doubts that you are. So am I.
Until I am not. You, too… you know?
In order to deal with the ceaseless Voice of the Critic, we do whatever we can to drown it out, numb the sting, ignore it… make it STOP.
But it is disobedient.
…Bad Dog! >:} A lot like a People-Pleaser. … why can’t you just do what I want for once!?!…
Your Inner Critic…a People-Pleaser? Of course. It was installed to keep you alert to all the ways in which you can increase your enjoyable experience of this brief sojourn with Mother Gaia. It can’t help that you ignore the more subtle urgings of your Soul…
…why can’t you listen the first time?…
All the voices it uses, all the things it says, are the voices you’ve heard and listened to in the past.
…if it works, keep doing it!…
The trouble doubles when guidance meant for you spills out of you and onto others.
We tolerate the Critic because we’re all so familiar with its voice. We often use its voice. Some of us grew up believing that voice is the voice of God. (spoiler alert: it’s NOT.) Most of us go about our day with the Critic on auto-repeat and we don’t know how to shut it off.
Be Kind.To yourself and to others. Every person you meet is a lot more like you than you think…